Kiss and make up

[leftyhunter]

Has we know during the Civil War folks on both sides killed a whole lot of folks on the other side. To a certain extent folks on both sides made up for the loss by making new babies with help from the other side.the other side.
Some examples. Drury Whitehead a veteran of the 1st Alabama Union Cavalry had three sons who married the three daughters of a Mr. Tucker who's three sons had joined the CSA Army and Mr. Tucker hated Mr. Whitehead something fierce. The local Church of Christ in Pinson , Al gets some credit there by preaching reconciliation. Per p.233 Loyalty and Loss Alabama's Unionists in the civil war and reconstruction Margret Storey Louisiana State University Press.

Former Col. Monk 12th Mo State Militia had a daughter who married a former CSA soldier. From the History of Southern Missouri and Northern Arkansas .
A near miss is that on of former President Davis's daughters almost married a Northerner Davis approved but she broke of the weeding and never married anyone. Per Jefferson Davis American by Cooper.
No doubt there are plenty of other examples. Not to say for years afterwards folks from border and Southern states who had fought on both sides didn't kill each other Storeys book and T.J. Stiles "Jesse James the last Rebel" go's into that in detail but some folks from both sides did more then just kiss and make up. Different strokes for different folks.
Leftyhunter

 

[ole]

We, generally, as a group, have been a forgiving bunch, unless you were a horsethief, a Hatfield, a McCoy, and a few others that prove the statement wrong. But generally, we're not mad at Rebs, Brits, Germans, Japs and quite a few others. Just stay out of my way and go about your business.

 

[jgoodguy]

There is a bit of different between the government telling you to go kill a bunch of folks and you going off on your own for personal reasons.

 

[ole]

There is a bit of different between the government telling you to go kill a bunch of folks and you going off on your own for personal reasons.

Don't know if I like this or not. Will have to think about it some.

 

[leftyhunter]

We, generally, as a group, have been a forgiving bunch, unless you were a horsethief, a Hatfield, a McCoy, and a few others that prove the statement wrong. But generally, we're not mad at Rebs, Brits, Germans, Japs and quite a few others. Just stay out of my way and go about your business.

Even the Hatfields and the McCoys ( who has I understand fought on opposing sides in the CW) intermarried years latter.
Leftyhunter

 

[diane]

It's always surprised me at how forgiving both sides were. I think about the 50th anniversary of Pickett's Charge, where the old soldiers tried to do a re-enactment of that event. They ended up running out and hugging each other!

 

[Northern Light]

As I have said before, somewhere, those who did the actual fighting were often much more forgiving than the non-combatants, sad to say. Could be because they realized that maybe the reasons that they thought they were fighting for looked like so much smoke and mirrors, when you are actually out there killing people. They also often had more time to think than those who stayed at home and were busy just knitting and making bandages or just trying to survive.

 

[OldGreyMare]

People then didn't have the leisure to dwell on recent events so much; you either get on with your life or you wind up trapped, and survival dictates that you don't do that. Especially events of such a bloody and destructive nature -- most were probably more than glad to have it over with and try to negotiate getting on with their lives (which had undergone quite an upheaval and no doubt caused quite a lot of conflicting emotions, which in turn prepares the ground for what comes next). The progression of viewpoint and emotion belongs to future generations though, as they have the leisure of the leisurely look back.
I think that's just human nature. We can't seem to withstand the impulse to NOT look back.