Shelby Foote once said that Forrest had 'antique values'. That's quite true of him. However, Sherman did not! He loved to read Sir Walter Scott but scoffed at the romanticism and the very idea of dying honorably while leading his men to battle. No, show them where to go and live to fight another day - what are they going to do without me anyway? The South lost many of her best generals because of this honor before the men, lead the way. Sherman stayed alive the whole war, but he did not have to kill over 30 men to do it. He was targeted but it had to be at a distance - he did not lead by example!
For his personal life, have to say he picked one heck of a difficult partner! (Not that he was a prize himself...) His wife lived most of their marriage with her father, convinced her husband would never be able to support the family they kept growing. To his credit, he stayed faithful to her until much later years. Considerably after the war, he had a few dalliances and flings but Ellen wasn't disturbed - he wasn't going anywhere...and he didn't!
And, although Sherman's record is messy with the Indians, when he gave his word to the Navajos to get them out of Bosque Redondo, he did keep it. They have no problem with him and even like him. The Lakota - not so much! He wanted to simply annihilate them. Sometimes he spoke with forked tongue to other tribes, and that was generally because his subordinates split it! As an enemy, this guy was your worst nightmare, but as a friend you couldn't ask better. I do have problems with his treatment of Indians, though. He didn't invent the Peace Policy Grant followed, but he had a lot of input into it and it was him and Sheridan who interpreted what it meant. Sheridan was not honorable, but cunning. I'm not sure what to make of this in light of whether Sherman was honorable or not - I didn't do it...he did! Hmmm... While no friend of the Indian, Sherman felt it was a matter of duty and of honor to complete his mission in the West. His terms were simple and the same as for the South: Knuckle under and we'll get along fine - fight me, and you'll lose everything you ever had or ever will have.