Hidden Mothers, Behind The Bizarre

JPK Huson 1863

Brev. Brig. Gen'l
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Central Pennsylvania
One, more thread on our endlessly entertaining Victorian ancestors. We all have them- Victorian ancestors. Who they were, what they were doing and what encompassed their world could remain a mystery for some; be sure we all descend through the era.

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The ' Hidden Mother ' photographs have fascinatingly emerged from the era as either baffling or bizarre relics. Mothers poorly disguised as furniture creepily fondling children, fooling no one in an age when camera lenses required long, long motionless seconds to record that coveted ( and expensive ) photograph seems so sophomorically simple-minded compared to results it's a little shocking anyone thought them worthwhile. Surely there was a better solution? Something less distracting, less silly looking, more in keeping with an ornate dignity we've come to associate with the Victorian era? I mean gee whiz, if we pick up on a certain elegance of purpose think what effort went into projecting that across the board!

( I just posted 3 different photos, deleting them as it became clear all 3 were post mortem. )

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Post era, another take on Hidden Mothers


It means women did not just rush their little ones on over to the photographers, throw blankets over their heads and wrangle little ones into states of terrified muteness. It transpires two factors were at play, or could have been. One- a fair amount of these ' Hidden Mother ' photos were post mortum. Far easier, instead of propping the tragic little figure in chair or bed, to be held in position by lap and arms. How a grief stricken parent achieves this is beyond me; remembering this would have been the only photograph hence the only evidence this child once graced the planet I suppose gave the hidden mother added strength, supporting her through the ordeal as she supported her once living offspring. Ouch. Am not providing an example because these photos were from deeply personal times in the lives of a shattered, grief stricken family. None of our business, intruding, may as well gain entrance to their bedrooms or baths- or deathbeds.

The second way these photos make sense is how some have been found framed. How many oval shaped, small, ancient photos exist of babies and small children in various collections? We have several in our family. It's only just occurred to me recently, the originals may have consisted of a mother/child photo, cropped around the child. Hiding the mother gives greater scope in framing- makes a huge amount of sense. If ' Hidden Mother ' photographs were meant to be displayed this way most of inheriting our family collections would have found several exactly this way somewhere, in frames. We certainly have none although like I said, have several small, baby photos in oval frames.

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Hidden Cat mommy.....

Examples- and am not stating this was the case always. Perhaps a lot of families saw the idea and thought it wonderful exactly as-is. Unsurprising if so, some are quite good without the crop. Still- much more understandable with it and also giving the nod the photos which no doubt found their way to a jewelry box or drawer,- the post mortem photos.

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I looked at this one for awhile, trying to ascertain if the little girl was still with us at the time of the photo- her eyes are glistening plus she looks annoyed, seems alive, annoyed by a mother's hands holding her head still.

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One, more thread on our endlessly entertaining Victorian ancestors. We all have them- Victorian ancestors. Who they were, what they were doing and what encompassed their world could remain a mystery for some; be sure we all descend through the era.

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The ' Hidden Mother ' photographs have fascinatingly emerged from the era as either baffling or bizarre relics. Mothers poorly disguised as furniture creepily fondling children, fooling no one in an age when camera lenses required long, long motionless seconds to record that coveted ( and expensive ) photograph seems so sophomorically simple-minded compared to results it's a little shocking anyone thought them worthwhile. Surely there was a better solution? Something less distracting, less silly looking, more in keeping with an ornate dignity we've come to associate with the Victorian era? I mean gee whiz, if we pick up on a certain elegance of purpose think what effort went into projecting that across the board!

( I just posted 3 different photos, deleting them as it became clear all 3 were post mortem. )

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Post era, another take on Hidden Mothers


It means women did not just rush their little ones on over to the photographers, throw blankets over their heads and wrangle little ones into states of terrified muteness. It transpires two factors were at play, or could have been. One- a fair amount of these ' Hidden Mother ' photos were post mortum. Far easier, instead of propping the tragic little figure in chair or bed, to be held in position by lap and arms. How a grief stricken parent achieves this is beyond me; remembering this would have been the only photograph hence the only evidence this child once graced the planet I suppose gave the hidden mother added strength, supporting her through the ordeal as she supported her once living offspring. Ouch. Am not providing an example because these photos were from deeply personal times in the lives of a shattered, grief stricken family. None of our business, intruding, may as well gain entrance to their bedrooms or baths- or deathbeds.

The second way these photos make sense is how some have been found framed. How many oval shaped, small, ancient photos exist of babies and small children in various collections? We have several in our family. It's only just occurred to me recently, the originals may have consisted of a mother/child photo, cropped around the child. Hiding the mother gives greater scope in framing- makes a huge amount of sense. If ' Hidden Mother ' photographs were meant to be displayed this way most of inheriting our family collections would have found several exactly this way somewhere, in frames. We certainly have none although like I said, have several small, baby photos in oval frames.

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Hidden Cat mommy.....

Examples- and am not stating this was the case always. Perhaps a lot of families saw the idea and thought it wonderful exactly as-is. Unsurprising if so, some are quite good without the crop. Still- much more understandable with it and also giving the nod the photos which no doubt found their way to a jewelry box or drawer,- the post mortem photos.

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I looked at this one for awhile, trying to ascertain if the little girl was still with us at the time of the photo- her eyes are glistening plus she looks annoyed, seems alive, annoyed by a mother's hands holding her head still.

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JPK, I like your theory that the upholstered mothers were intended to be cropped out when the photos were framed. Makes perfect sense, considering how poorly some are concealed. I'd bet those twins laughed at their baby picture their entire lives.
 
JPK, I like your theory that the upholstered mothers were intended to be cropped out when the photos were framed. Makes perfect sense, considering how poorly some are concealed. I'd bet those twins laughed at their baby picture their entire lives.


" Upholstered mothers' !!! :roflmao: :roflmao: :roflmao: Hysterical! The thing is, we have this pretty large collection of old, old photos from both sides of the family. Several feature the small, oval baby photograph- none the hidden mother. Even browsing other people's family collections you just, plain do not run across these. OH my gosh, you are so, so right- you know the family stories which come up when everyone gets together at Christmas? When you laugh so hard you can't breathe? Bet these come out then!

Well, have to say there were several which look to be the typical set-staged photographs of 2 children so meant to be framed as-is. Posted TWO here then deleted and why? Closer look revealed one or both children were dead. Some are so tricky to spot! That one, both girls hands were weirdly cupped in their laps, mouths open and Hidden Mother's arm is in view holding up the head of one sister.

These ' dead ' kid photos are all over on Pinterest by the gazillion, just have a terrible time with the whole thing myself. Horribly private moments for some family, millions of people peeking in windows while you suffered. Like the chubby little faces MUCH better!
 
At first look thought the "Rug Moms" to be an extremely unusual part of the photo. I guess some of them had a purpose as a prop in their photo. Interesting, but nowhere near the candid photos we are accustomed to seeing in today's family albums. But then, come to think of it...today albums are not as popular as just... "here's my phone, check out the pictures"! Kinda sad in a way.
 
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These ' dead ' kid photos are all over on Pinterest by the gazillion, just have a terrible time with the whole thing myself. Horribly private moments for some family, millions of people peeking in windows while you suffered. Like the chubby little faces MUCH better!
Some people like to show photos of the dead, I guess. I don't know that people thought they were to be kept hidden. An elderly man where I worked in the early 1980s brought in pictures of his dead mother in the casket at the funeral and showed them around the office to everyone, even though most of us had never met her in life. He acted like it was a normal thing to do. :unsure:
 
Okay. Googled this. Took me down a very dark and strange road. :O o: I'm off to stress eat.


Ha! Yes, so odd- especially out of their times, looking at people we do not know. From thinking these hidden mother photos were all just some kinda weird way of getting one's child sitting for a photo to a the horrifying realization some were not squirmy- they were dead was beyond shocking. ' Shocking ' because (and how judgemental of me! ) it is now a ' thing ' to collect photos of dead people. I guess because photos were so expensive you did not always have one of your child. When the poor thing died of disease or some dreadful cause parents naturally wished to have at least one so this type of photo was invented. Post-mortems. I've probably inadvertently posted some because they could be very well done. Eyes painted on lids, natural ' poses ', a stand to hold them up ( although it was also used to keep living subjects from moving during a shot ).

These were so, so private! A family's worst nightmare come true, a child or family member gone. You do not see many of elderly. It's the shocking deaths, children and parents, some soldiers. That these photos are collected now as a kind of freak show appalls me, voyeurs into someone's tragedy.

There is some very good half fat ice cream out now, I think they had stress eaters in mind. :angel:
 
Some people like to show photos of the dead, I guess. I don't know that people thought they were to be kept hidden. An elderly man where I worked in the early 1980s brought in pictures of his dead mother in the casket at the funeral and showed them around the office to everyone, even though most of us had never met her in life. He acted like it was a normal thing to do. :unsure:

That's extremely interesting! Maybe the whole topic of death was less inhibited? In our old family photos we have found quite a few photos of graves which must have been taken just after burial. Banked baskets of flowers, head and foot of grave. So many, both sides of the family we knew it was not just one person with a fondness for graves.
 
Back here to place my vote for Best Hidden Mother.

#1 looks like she's hiding from her toddler. And really...who hasn't done that? She is a close 2nd for me.

#2 is my favorite because it looks like perhaps Mom was going to pose, but then last minute saw something much more interesting.

*sigh* "All right, dear. Just stand here with mommy. You'll be fine. Hold these grapes but don't eat them. Got it? And...oh hey...did someone bring doughnuts?"
 

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