I agree but the two are different. In the first there is a betrayal of something one is
actually a part of. In the second that is not necessarily the case. If one is a citizen of a country, derives whatever benefits come with that, claims to be a good citizen, and then betrays the country that is a bad thing. If an FBI agent infiltrates a criminal drug gang then betrays them he or she was only
pretending to be a part of it, thus not actually betraying a friend or group and so not really a traitor. In that scenario even "liar" might take on a positive connotation.
@NedBaldwin kind of says it in post 7 above.
I'm not sure the question is as much offensive as incomplete. I don't know how many choices we are allowed to put in polls. I didn't answer because I don't know, or can't wrap my head around one over the other. It might have been better to have added "all of the above" and "none of the above" as choices. Maybe "traitorous" could have been rendered as "disaffected" (
adj. - dissatisfied with the people in authority and no longer willing to support them.)
It is an interesting thought experiment. The most red hot southerners had been saying for decades that they would be willing to leave the union, so they were not pretending loyalty to something they claimed to agree with. The southern unionists had been arguing the opposite for decades, so when they betrayed their southern neighbors they had never pretended that they would go along. I just got a book on the Copperheads but haven't read it yet, so I don't feel comfortable commenting on them.
It seems to me that in their time and context all of them
thought they were doing what was right, and most of them had clearly stated their positions. No betrayal or claim of loyalty there. That is the reason the Lost Cause/TOV arguments don't interest me. Whatever improvements might have been made in the phrasing the forced choice(s) in your poll question does invite people to think about the nuances.