Regardless of the circumstances around different families and communities, something always goes on: Life.
From helping little ones get ready day in and day out, remembering someone who's passed on, getting the crops in for the winter...it's easy to forget that life honestly just went on.
Two vivid examples of how families "ignored" the war are in the very first Little House book and in the lesser-known Caddie Woodlawn. Both take place very close to the Civil War, yet the children go merrily about their day. The parents are a little less merry, but the cycle of living goes on. As it always does when you live close to the land.
Something to think about...