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"Yes or No?" by Charles West Cope, 1872. (Walker Art Gallery, Liverpool)
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“There is a fashion in letter-paper and envelopes which is ever varying as to size and shape—sometimes small, at other times large; now oblong, now square; but one thing never alters, and that is the desirability of using good thick paper and envelopes, whatever the shape may be. Nothing looks more mean and untidy than thin sheets and envelopes of the same quality, through which the writing exhibits itself.”
— Etiquette of Good Society, 1893
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“Perfectly plain paper, thick, smooth, and white, is the most elegant. When in mourning, use paper and envelopes with a black edge. Never use the gilt-edged or fancy bordered paper; it looks vulgar, and is in bad taste.”
— The Ladies’ Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness, 1872
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“Use good pens. Bad pens make bad writers, waste time, spoil paper, and irritate the temper. Therefore it is not economy to use bad pens because they are low in price. A bad pen will be a very dear one if, by spoiling your writing and irritating your temper, it should cause you to write a scrawl in careless language upon business of importance.”
— Etiquette, Politeness, and Good Breeding, 1870
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“The color of ink most durable and tasteful, on all occasions and for all correspondence is black. Red ink should never be used for the body of a letter. Blue ink may be. Fancy ink may answer for ladies, but is not in taste for gentlemen.”
— Hand-Book of Official and Social Etiquette, 1889
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“The handwriting should be clear, and yet not too large and bold; it should possess some character and style, but not be adorned or ornamented with fine flourishes and dashes.”
— Etiquette of Good Society, 1893
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“The salutation is the term of politeness used to introduce a letter, as Dear Sir, My Dear Friend, My Honored Father. Business letters generally begin with Sir, Dear Sir, Messrs. or Gentlemen. Never use ‘gents.’ for Gentlemen, nor ‘Dr.’ for Dear. For a letter addressed to a married woman or a single woman not young, the proper salutation is Madam, Dear Madam, or My Dear Madam."
— Polite Life and Etiquette, 1891
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“Letter writing is, in fact, but conversation, carried on with the pen, when distance or circumstances prevent the easier method of exchanging ideas, by spoken words. Write, therefore, as you would speak, were the person to whom your letter is addressed seated beside you.”
— The Ladies’ Book of Etiquette and Manual of Politeness, 1872
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“All letters to strangers and notes of formal character should as a rule be written in the third person, and must always be answered in the same way.”
— Etiquette of Good Society, 1893
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“Ladies, when writing to gentlemen who are not related to them, should make their letters mediums of improving conversation, brilliant wit, and moral obligations, and always of so high and pure a tone, that they would be fit for publication should they ever be needed.”
— Gems of Deportment and Hints of Etiquette, 1881
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“Yours sincerely’ is the correct termination; and whatever the degree of friendship, we are inclined to think that great demonstrations of affection and terms of endearment are better avoided, or left only for the use of lovers.”
— Etiquette of Good Society, 1893
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“Many persons do not naturally spell well, and so are obliged to keep a dictionary always at hand. Such persons should never write a word, about the proper spelling, of which they are uncertain, without looking it up. Bad spelling like bad grammar, is an offence against society.”
— Letter-Writing: Its Ethics and Etiquette, 1890
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“The gummed envelope, without a seal is perfectly correct, but a neat seal of red sealing-wax always gives a refined look to a letter and is a desirable adjunct thereto...If the writer is in mourning black sealing wax should, of course, be used, but no other colors except black and red are good form.”
— Letter-Writing: Its Ethics and Etiquette, 1890
"The Letter" by Charles Baugniet.
Source: “12 Letter-Writing Rules for Victorian Ladies” by Mimi Matthews.