Great idea.
I must be doing something wrong on my search. It's hard to believe she isn't on find a grave.
You aren't doing something wrong, it just takes an individual with information about a person's name and burial to put them on findagrave. Would you like to do it? Sign up as a member -- you will not be bothered with emails or spam. Go to your Contributor page and follow the steps to create a memorial. All you need do is supply her first, last and maiden names and her place of burial. As the creator of the memorial, you may write what you wish about her achievements in the bio section. Then Click Photo Request and ask for a photo of her gravestone or marker and likely some volunteer in the area will post one. I you want help, start a Conversation with me SuzanneA and I'll respond.
As to people's wishes that family would be filled in, I research a long list of Civil War soldiers and sometimes I create memorials for them and mention their CW service. There is not enough time in life for me to try to do the research necessary to detail their family members when I know nothing personal about the soldier. It is far easier for family to do that, they have a head start. My hope in setting up these memorials is that some family member will discover them and learn about the man's military service.
And for women, it is often impossible for a stranger to find her married and burial name when all you have is her maiden name to start with, there is no database I know of that will convert her maiden name to her married name(s). Findagrave can be a resource if the maiden name is recorded, but that will only yield the name she was buried under. Woman sometimes had more than one husband and did not die married to the one they had their children with.
Findagrave had the opportunity to set up searchability that would tie any married name a woman was known by to her grave and her maiden name, but they did not set up their data base that way, a great loss to genealogy. This because men set these things up and they don't change their names as their status changes through life. I've commented a few times about this to findagrave, but I guess the task to overhaul their set up is just too overwhelming.