A close friend lost a leg in Afghanistan and my daughters have seen first hand the complexities of phantom pain. Plus my oldest daughter is a physical therapist for the VA.
My wife had an ancestor at the Battle of Franklin who lost a leg and he wrote about his phantom pain in his postwar journal.
I think many students of the Civil War overlook the postwar suffering of thousands Americans. I've tried to teach my daughters about the human toll of the Civil War and modern conflicts. My wife and I kept no secrets about our multiple deployments.