The Victorians are who we all were at one time. They were us and we are them. They were slightly over the top in outlook and speech. They tended to romanticize life and death, and they admired traits then that we would dismiss today. I knew some Victorians, my grandfather was born in 1867 and died around 1964. It was who he was. So was my dad to a degree, we tend to forget how many of our parents or grandparents were heavily influenced by Victorians. We still are living with some of those ideas only slightly modernized. Times change not so much some of our practices. Most funerals today are still heavily influenced by Victorian ideas, The words, the eulogy, ceremony, viewing, embalming. It goes on. If you stop and think about it for awhile you can see other ideas still around that had their origins with those long dead people. Your dead and well remembered ancestors who fought in some war that affects us to this day. We still think of Lee as a very honorable man, remembered for who he was and what he did.